Moving Past The Guilt of “Giving” My Son ADHD – via Understood.org

Father with his sons, moving past the guilt of giving my son adhd

This is a post I did on Understood.org and appeared in the Huffington Post. Follow the links below for the full post. My 6-year-old son Benjamin has ADHD and frequently has trouble staying on task. One night, after I’d asked him five times to get undressed for his shower, I found him staring at a poster in his room and fiddling with one of his toys. He seemed disappointed in himself. “Daddy, I’m so sorry,” he said. “I got very distracted again. I’ll try very hard this time.” This often happens to him at home and in school, and it brings up a lot of memories for me… Read the full post at Understood.org or on the Huffington Post. Related Posts:The LEGO Movie release, and Not Until It Happens To Their KidsHitting things with other things, and why my kids can’t have summers like mine

Pokémon Go – Ok, I get it now

Pokéball

When Pokémon Go was first released, my kids were immediately hooked. “Dad, you need to get Pokémon Go, you need to right now! It’s so awesome!” they would tell me. I was torn. Pokémon never interested me, at least not the card game or the cartoons. Did I really have the energy for this? I balked. I didn’t get Pokémon. I just didn’t. Whenever someone tried to explain to me how to play the card game, it was like they were speaking a different language. Of course, many of the explanations came from children, who I’m not sure actually got the rules themselves, so it was kind of a Calvinball situation. The explanations of Pokémon Go flummoxed me as well. Pokémon candy? Pokéballs? PokéStops? Poké what? Within weeks of release, the media was saturated with stories about this new craze, Pokémon Go, the game where everyone gets outdoors to walk… read more

#TBT quick post – Mommy’s book and Plae Shoes

B holding up The Everything Kids' Learning Activities Book

A quick #TBT post for you. From 2013, here is B, our youngest, holding up his mommy’s book, The Everything Kids’ Learning Activities Book by Amanda Morin. We found it on the shelves at Barnes and Noble, or as B called it, “Bornes and Novel”. And check out those Plae Shoes, which I did a review of several years back. Boy, time flies. Related Posts:PLAE Shoes – Free Shipping Through November 30thGo PLAE – PLAE shoes review | Cool shoes, good for developing feetMusic Monday ramblings and updatesBook review – The Everything Kids’ Learning Activities Book by Amanda Morin

Forefatherhood

my grandfather and his parents

As I work on my family history, I often wonder about the people behind the names and dates. I unearth clues and dig up bones — figuratively, of course. But the vital records, census entries, immigration and military records only build a framework for my imagination. What were these people like? What did they think about, talk about, eat, play and dance like? I took a moment and thought of a small handful of facts that could describe me as a person: I like Steely Dan I’m not a picky eater I don’t sleep much I can’t parallel park Summer is my favorite season Steely Dan wasn’t around in the 19th century, but aside from that, how the hell would I know any of that stuff about my ancestors? Some people were written about, and still others have had their journals and diaries published. Most of my ancestors were poor… read more

Snapshots, special needs, and being a #HealthyDad

apple picking a family tradition

Thanks to Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield, who sponsored the campaign, for including dads in this important discussion about family health care. My views are based solely on my experience as a parent, and not as a medical professional. My wife and I used to talk about snapshots. Those are the frozen moments in time that we wanted to remember. They are pictures of reality that fit with our wishes and dreams, and when we saw them we had to capture them in our minds. There’s something unique about raising kids with special needs that never lets you forget those snapshots, and even remember them in different lights. In good times, you can’t seem to forget the difficult moments that you never thought you’d survive. And in the bad times, well, you always recall the good ones that keep you pushing forward. When your kid is falling apart and you… read more

PVC projects to the rescue! Have a water fight!

PVC water cannons made with Instructables

PVC has always been fun for my boys and I to play with, and it came in really handy this last week of August in Maine, where the temperatures and humidity climbed quickly and we needed to find refuge from the heat. I remembered some Instructables I had seen, and together with a hack saw, miter box, rotary tool, some PVC, cement, and a few O-rings, dad and sons constructed a few water cannons to cool off with. Past PVC projects for this dad and sons have included a playhouse frame and some other structures. We also have a huge top-secret project going that I will most certainly blog about, but will not be finished until next summer. We’d also like to build a PVC trebuchet and a wicked PVC rocket launcher. Working with PVC is easy. It’s sturdy but fairly soft. If you don’t have PVC shears or some… read more

Dear Madeleine – Teaching my kids life lessons using family history

map of the western part of new france french canada

About fifteen years ago, I became interested in my family history and began asking relatives about where we came from. From that point I was hooked. I’d caught the genealogy bug. I’ve discovered some amazing things in those fifteen years, such as the fact that we are descendants of Vikings and pirates. Most of my blood is French – Acadian and later Franco American, but I also have Norwegian, German, Irish, and as I’ve recently discovered, possibly Mi’kmaq. I think it’s important for kids to know where their roots are, and a lot of kids find it fascinating. Genealogy for kids can be a really fun activity, and you will never run out of things to research. In addition to the names and dates of your ancestors, you will learn about history and culture, and might even inspire you to learn a new language. I’m going to introduce a new… read more

ISIS, plane crashes and tornadoes – Why the news is bad for my fatherhood

world newspapers on news stand

ISIS beheading Christians, another plane crash, more tornadoes destroy entire towns, another celebrity suicide, more plane crashes, the endless Middle East conflict, another suicide bombing and pictures of dead children. It’s all in the news, all the time. It seems like it’s all bad news, and I’ve had enough. Last week I was reading story after story about ISIS beheading dozens of people in Iraq. Innocent people who did not share their killers’ radical beliefs. There are so may readily available and in your face pictures of heads on spikes and dead children. The children. It literally made me sick to think about the children. And it pissed me off. The last time I was so pissed off at the world was October of 2001, and I marched into my local recruiter’s office to enlist in the US army. But that’s a whole different story. I came to realize that… read more